The ReWilding Way
On what it is you are made to & capable of experiencing and what the ReWilding lifestyle looks like. Can you imagine it?
Let’s leave this space, this time, this reality.
Let’s imagine together.
Just for a moment.
Can you imagine yourself calm, at ease, & content?
Can you imagine your home being a sanctuary where the energy of the outside world cannot reach you?
Can you imagine having strong energetic boundaries where you can sense other peoples emotions as separate from your own & know what you feel in any given moment?
Can you imagine a life where you are in divine union with your emotions? Where you recognize them as a part of your internal compass system arising to illuminate something important for you to understand. Imagine feeling your emotions without being ruled or compromised by them. Not getting swept up and away into reactivity that leaves pain, tears, and regret in its path. Where you witness them & integrate their messages into your body & mind in a way that allows you to navigate your life experiences with intelligence & alignment with your honest needs, wants, boundaries, & authentic nature.
Can you imagine a life where you are only ruled or moved by fear when it’s necessary and not as the main motivator in your life? Where unworthiness & fear of not belonging are not things that stand in your way but are rather whispers of feelings that you recognize as violations of your innate & unwavering worthiness. You see these feelings instead as signals to step away from the circles that bring these feelings on. Imagine instead a life where love, passion, joy, excitement, and peace are the feelings that motivate you into movement. Ahimsa, the act of non-violence against your sacred spirit as you move towards and away from the things that deserve it.
Can you imagine a life where your sense of inner security no longer allows you to attach to individuals who cause harm against your body, mind, or spirit? Where that is not something that is remotely appetizing to your loving heart. Imagine you find love not from a place of need but instead a place of wholeness, recognizing someone for exactly who it is they show you that they are rather than what you want them to be to & for you. Imagine allowing a person to present the outline of themselves and letting them fill in the story of them on their own without your own fantasies & desires filling in the blanks.
Can you imagine being in love with yourself to the degree that self study excites your heart to beat a little deeper in eagerness to dive into knowing yourself ever more fully? Where aloneness is precious and solitude is welcome in the absence of a soul worthy of partnership with yours. Where getting to have the space to follow your own impulses, desires, interests, & rhythms is something you crave? Where space & quietude floods you with inner peace instead of fear.
Can you imagine a life where you trust and know your body deeply? Where you understand & recognize each state and can call it by name. Where each state feels like a welcome loving friend there to guide you through whatever the external world has brought forth. A gentle hand that says “we like this” “we don’t like this” “we want this to change” “this is too much for our heart & body to process” and we listen with care & understanding. Imagine understanding each eb & flow and resting into the current. Never fighting it again.
Can you imagine having agency (the ability to take action or to choose what action to take) and choice as an unwavering aspect of your life no matter how stressful things get? Imagine being able to think clearly, speak with grace & clarity, know what you might need in any given moment even if that is more time and space to discover them. Imagine not being overtaken by stress & recognizing the signs of overwhelm before you are fully immobilized by it.
Can you imagine a life where you can immediately recognize which impulses are rooted in a place of wholeness and which impulses are rooted in wounding? Where you know when your internal reaction is driven by past hurts, trauma, and fear. Where you can feel the steadiness & neutrality of the responses that are based in your truest sense of self. Where you can sense defensiveness, disconnection, avoidance, or anxious gripping coming before they take over your ability to make healthy choices. Imagine being able to witness those wounded impulses, love them, nurture them with kind attention, and then make a different more aligned choice instead.
Can you imagine?
Can you imagine a life where you move at your own natural pace? Did you know that you have a pace that suits you specifically? And that maybe, likely, it is not the pace at which the modern era expects you to move? Imagine waking up in your own natural time, going to sleep when your tiredness asks you to, moving through your morning at a pace that allows you to feel steady & connected. Imagine speaking, creating, working, and resting at your own pace and rhythm. Do you know what yours is? Is it faster than you’re moving now? Is it slower? How do you know? How do you sense that?
Can you imagine a life where you are equal parts present and content right where you are AND excitedly hold a vision for what you’re creating for your future? Where your vision of the future you wish to create does not rob you of present time joy, contentment, connection, & gratitude? Imagine if contentment & joy were the emotions & energy you were building your future from rather than fear, lack, or dissatisfaction. Can you picture it?
Can you imagine what it would be like if every decision you make was made from a place of soft intentionality? Where you are fully connected to the soft flow of desire that pulls you towards or away from things, people, places, behaviors, activities, beliefs. Where you are actively engaging with each choice recognizing it as a choice made with your innate freedom to choose rather than something inflicted upon you. A culmination of many choices that have brought you now to this choice? And this one? And this one right now to be reading these words? What choices have brought you here right now?
Can you imagine feeling incredibly at home in your skin, right now as it is without anything changing? Appreciative of your body as it evolves through life? All of its changes and shifts, and accommodations, and adaptations? Can you imagine loving your body? Feeling so much sweet gratitude for the ways your body can heal, digest, process, integrate, strengthen, soften, procreate (creatively or physically), feel pleasure, joy, deep pain, hurt, grief, rage & yet still breathe. Still live? Holding it all. Imagine looking at your body and recognizing all the things it is made to do & feel. Feeling reverence for your body truly as a sacred entity. A temple like they always said.
Can you imagine having full connection to your body- mind wisdom to such a degree that you don’t question yourself anymore? Where you feel such a sense of steadiness & sturdiness in your mind & with your emotional experiences that you don’t question but instead quiet down in order to listen to the truth that is emanating from within?
How far are you from these things?
Do you want them?
When you think about self realization, what do you want?
What do you imagine is your essence self? Your most true authentic, whole self; what do they look like? How do they move through life? How do they spend their time? How do they relate to others? What do they feel most days? How do they take care of themselves?
Can you imagine?
This weeks Somatics Q&A:
One of my friends who just set out on her own somatic journey recently asked me during a conversation about body pain & soreness “What is a bracing pattern?” & “Is it normal to be sore from somatic experiencing?”
Considering a Somatic Experiencing therapy session is not very labor or movement intense (usually), it can feel odd to experience body soreness during & after a session, however, it actually makes a lot of sense and is quite common. Here’s why:
ps. Do you have chronic body pain or tension? This might be why:
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